Why do we repeat the same mistakes?
It is important to count on the emotions of shame and guilt in order to learn from our mistakes.
We could say that there is an emotional immaturity that causes you to fall into the same failures over and over again. Perhaps for others it is obvious but the person does not get to see them.
It is necessary to detect mistakes first and then learn from them and above all think of alternative behaviors to be different and improve in that sense.
Another reason we make the same mistake again is when we better blame others instead of taking responsibility for our actions.
Sometimes it is difficult to detect the reason for our behaviors, but it is important sometimes to ask for help to identify them.
When a person humbly accepts having made a mistake, it is easier not to fall into the same situation again.
Knowing our history and the unconscious motives we have; it is possible to avoid repeating a series of behaviors.
Difficulty recognizing mistakes may be due to low self-esteem by not recognizing our positive and negative qualities. The more damaged our self-esteem is, the more difficult it will be for us to recognize our mistakes. They can be narcissistic people or very rigid with themselves, they present more resistance to accept their mistakes.
Acknowledging our mistakes helps us grow; Thanks to them we also see what the consequences can be.
To help a person who presents these characteristics is to begin to change the perception of those mistakes and the consequences.
See these mistakes as an opportunity to learn from them.
We must consider that these mistakes that are repeated are involuntary and sometimes are the product of intense anxiety that we do not know how to control. This anxiety may be due to a great fear of making those same mistakes.
On the other hand, also if the level of demand is not regulated and we are very perfectionists we will not tolerate mistakes.
When we remain fixated on the past, on the mistakes of the past it is easier for us to make the same mistake again. Perhaps something we should not forget is not to act rashly because when we do not reflect, we are more likely to make mistakes. Don’t justify your mistakes or minimize them, but don’t beat yourself up for them either.
