What is autoeroticism?
Autoeroticism is a sexual activity that encompasses the individual’s own body, obtaining pleasure and satisfaction. It is not limited only to masturbation, but encompasses fantasies, desires, dreams.
Autoeroticism is of utmost importance for sexual development, it is a safe practice since it prevents the transmission of diseases and fundamentally helps to activate the erogenous zones.
For Freud, one of the ways to manifest autoeroticism is through masturbation, as well as the use of sex toys.
We must think differently, masturbation is normal at all ages, it is not only a woman’s thing nor is it a selfish act that prevents you from enjoying sex as a couple.
Today it is important to understand that self-pleasure should not be thought about or felt guilty.
It serves to explore and get to know your own body, perhaps with the help of certain erotic toys and cosmetics that undoubtedly optimize pleasure. It can reassure the person who masturbates with erotic toys or cosmetics since it is a risk-free sexual activity. There is no risk of pregnancy or contagion and above all it helps the blood supply.
It is important to know that you can have pleasure and satisfaction without the need for another person and above all to realize that it is in me to enjoy and enjoy.
How and what is it for?
It helps you feel better self-esteem. Autoeroticism is not only limited to masturbation, but also encompasses fantasies, dreams, explorations, arousals, and desires. To be able to use autoeroticism and erotic cosmetic games requires having a very positive and self-respecting mindset.
To enjoy and optimize your self-eroticism, it is necessary to lose your fear and be calm, relaxed and willing to enjoy every moment. Another interesting aspect is to face and lose the fear of fantasies since they play a very important role for autoeroticism, sexual intercourse and the realization of erotic games. You can let yourself be carried away by all those fantasies that you know turn you on or have the courage to discover new ones. For this, it is important to try different positions and places. Toys should not be underestimated as they can be excellent companions and make you feel excellently good.
What benefits do I get from using sex toys?
- You can acquire a better quality of communication with yourself or with your partner.
It is of utmost importance to learn how to give of ourselves. Sex toys can help you get to know your tastes either individually or as a couple.
- It can improve sexual desire by strengthening some areas of the body. Like kisses, hugs, some compliments or good opinion about their appearance. Sexual desire can be increased by means of sex toys as you can surprise him and prepare different games by complementing them with stimulating words.
- They help you spend pleasant and fun times by reducing anguish and stress, whether alone or with your partner.
How can I tell if your relationship with your partner or with yourself is on track by using sex toys?
How can you tell if your relationship is on track by using sex toys?
- Today your partner knows. It’s important to make sure your partner knows about the usefulness of these toys and that they don’t replace their role in the sexual relationship.
- Today he is a regular guest in sexual practice and has fun in both. These toys can be of great help to optimize the couple’s communication.
- It fosters creativity and imagination.
- Today they both manage to have orgasms. Both should feel confident and not devalued, on the contrary, these toys can give them security.
- When and how to introduce a sex toy into the relationship. Before introducing a toy, both members of the couple should agree and investigate the function that they will have in the relationship.
Many men, when their partner invites them to use certain toys, feel that this reflects poor sexual skill on their part and that makes them feel “bad in bed”. But none of that, can be a great accomplice and help them get along in bed by removing taboos, a toy will never replace you.
When does a friend become an enemy and when to seek help…?
When you can’t do without it anymore.
-You think that you will only reach orgasm with the help or presence of the toy.
-When you consider or consider that it should be kept secret.
When you or your partner consider yourself “lesser” because of your upbringing, culture, or religion that prevents you from enjoying and taking and talking about it.
The best thing to do is to make sure that the couple does not feel bad about being with them. Sometimes straight men report having less sexual pleasure when using them. This may be due to the fact that when they use, for example, vibrators, they are concerned with making the partner feel pleasure rather than achieving their own. Many men, when their partner invites them to use certain toys, feel that this reflects poor sexual skill on their part and that makes them feel “bad in bed”. But none of that, can be a great accomplice and help them get along in bed by removing taboos, a toy will never replace you.
It is important to identify the factors that are influencing difficulties in sexual desire as they can be organic or psychological.
The conclusion we can reach is that any erogenous zone can be stimulated to the maximum, not only with caresses, kisses, but also with erotic toys. Don’t be inhibited. If you feel or have any problems related to all this, please contact me and I will be happy to help you.
There are also therapeutic benefits. In sex therapy it can be a very powerful and efficient tool. For example, in cases such as dyspareunia which is the pain of light or deep penetration, vaginismus which is the impossibility of vaginal penetration among many other conditions. In therapy, these conditions can be overcome and increased libido can be encouraged.
